Friday, May 20, 2011

Change/Leaving

Today a girl I know told me about how she is afraid because all the seniors are done with high school and soon they will be off in college. The mater of fact is she is afraid of change. She is afraid of it because it can hurt you because people you love can leave. Here is the thing about changes. We as humans hate not having control, so when we finally grasped something to only see the situation change again it scares us. What we were comfortable with has disappeared and we must work again to regain that security. The thing about change is that after a while the change feels normal and becomes what we would consider as the basis of our comfortableness. Change is only natural. Without it nothing would get done, nothing would grow, and the world would be still.

The second part of the problem was that the people she loved were leaving. Up until last year I had not seen my biological mother for six years. To this day I only see my brother once or twice a month if I am lucky. Though they have left in a sense, they never did. If you truly love someone they never leave. You carry them in your heart and remember their love. You also remember they will come back eventually in some form or other. Though it might hurt, if you truly love them you let them go and hold them in your heart. If you remember them they are never gone. It sounds cheesy, but it is true.

There is a line in "The Fantasticks" that goes " without a hurt the heart is hollow." We all need to hurt eventually to grow. It is what makes us human. A person needs to accept the change for they cannot prevent it. A person can fight the current but it will eventually tire them out and carry them along. If a person just goes with the current from the beginning they will be able to admire all the beauty around them for they will not be tired.

"Try to remember when life was so tender
That no one wept except the willow.
Try to remember when life was so tender
That dreams were kept beside your pillow.
Try to remember when life was so tender
That love was an ember about to billow.
Try to remember, and if you remember,
Then follow."

-Brandon

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