A little while ago a friend of mine told me an analogy she had about boys looking for girls. "Girls are like apples on a tree. The good ones are at the top, but boys are lazy, so they pick the ones off the bottom. They're the easy ones. but the good ones you have to work for." Now obviously this statement can be vice versa with girls looking for guys. I disagree though. I do not think the problem is people not working for the ones on the top and picking the ones on the bottom. The problem is that people spend so much time looking either up or down that they ignore what is in front of them. Most people when they have an opportunity for something with someone they come up with reasons why the person is not good enough. This is a defense tactic that I for once use a lot. As a result they constantly look up because they do not think anyone is good enough. Some people though has issues in their own confidence so they look down because they do not think they are good enough so they will take whatever is in their reach. Most people have moments of both of these. What people sometimes do not realize is that what they are looking for is right in front of them. It seems to be too easy to be true so people generally ignore it because it goes against society's norms on relationships having to be a hard thing to achieve. I am not always saying it is "the friend" like in any cliche romantic comedy, but sometimes the person we are looking for is just right there. We just do not want to accept it. Try looking in front of you sometimes. It might help you find something you did not see at first. At least it will give your neck a break from always looking up.